Ins and Outs for 2026

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In the past, I got overwhelmed by the idea of what I should do this year. The same thing would always happen: I would make a giant list about overhauling my life and then not do anything. Last year, frustrated by my own process I said fuck it. I'm over goals. I decided not to do anything specific and just see what happened.

I am not sure what changed. Maybe social media influenced me (less believable), or maybe I've reached a place of what I am cultivating rather than what I am fixing (more aligned). Last night, 12/31/25 at 10:39pm, I started my list, and I want to share it if you are looking for some inspo.

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Why I'm Doing Ins and Outs for 2026

This year I ultimately discovered I want to slow down and be more intentional. There is so much I want to do, but I want to do it in a way that feels grounded, not like I am flying by the seat of my pants.

In 2025 I gave myself permission to "do nothing" and I have come to realize I am so over ambivalence (like we are so over that we need a new word for over [iykyk]). Ambivalence has been a comfort zone for me- it has brought me so much safety. Now I want to choose. I want to feel the confidence I have been growing over the years when I make a choice. I am ready for outcomes, whether they are good or bad. I am ready to embrace the unknown through a clear yes or no instead of my usual maybe.

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Ins for 2026

These things are what I want to invite more of with intention.

• better sleep hygiene
• digital products
• creating content
• courses that are relevant to my development
• saving
• exploring my personal brand
• blogging
• whole foods
• meditating/manifesting
• health
• loving kindness self talk and meditations
• self reflection that is intentional
• solving problems
• notion templates
• connecting with more professionals
• quarterly meetings for myself, business, and relationship
• the artist's way (re-read)
• scheduling time for self
• honesty
• vulnerability
• messing up and trying again
• failing and recovering
• laughing
• stretching
• choosing
• boundaries
• haikus

Outs for 2026

These are habits and patters I want to continue to loosen my grip on.

• codependency
• substances that cloud judgement and hinder overall health
• ambivalence
• what ifs
• avoidance
• crossing own boundaries
• rushing
• over scheduling
• staying up when tired
• ignoring internal state
• over focusing on internal state
• giving up pre-maturely
• dark/negative energy
• things that no longer serve me
• maladaptive arguing

A Note to My Future Self

This list is not about accomplishing everything. It is not black and white where it all gets done or none of it got done`1. It is a reminder of what I want more and less of. If this resonates, I encourage you to do the same. Be gentle with yourself and make a list of the things you want more of and what you want to leave behind as your move into the New Year. Cheers!